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Baby, I’m Worth It

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To me SELF worth means knowing your value and believing that you deserve to be treated with respect, kindness and love from YOURSELF (first) and others. It’s how you think about yourself intrinsically. Self-worth guides your judgment on relationships and your view of the world. I think we, as mothers need to make a conscious effort to focus on our self- worth. Since so much of our day is spent taking care of others, we often put ourselves last; but, our self-worth impacts our children’s self-worth.

Some tips to enhance your self-worth:

  • Be positive in your self-talk.

  • Only compare yourself to yourself.

  • Set yourself up for success. Know what works for you and what doesn’t.

  • Set healthy boundaries with people, work, etc.

  • Make self-care a priority.

  • Surround yourself with people who value and appreciate you for you.

  • Appreciate your strengths and

  • Accept your whole self (change what you can and accept what you cannot-much harder said than done! It definitely takes practice.)

As a mother of daughters, my girls will inherently look to me as an example of a female role model. They will emulate the way I treat others and myself. I am very mindful not to say negative things about my body or my appearance in front of them. Body image is a big part of self-worth for a lot of girls/women. I try very hard not to let it be that way. I want my girls to love their bodies. If they do, they will treat them with respect and make healthy choices.

Although self worth comes from within, I have the responsibility of influencing the development of their self worth. This can occur both intentionally and unintentionally. Dr. Sears talks about being a “positive mirror” to your child. Preschool aged children will look at your facial expressions to gauge approval of their behaviors. They internalize that approval or disapproval. I believe mothers remain this positive mirror throughout childhood. Daughters especially will look to their mothers for approval.

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Oprah says, “You can’t fix the girls and the self-esteem until you fix the mothers. As Naomi Wolf said so beautifully, ‘A mother who radiates self-love and acceptance actually vaccinates her daughter against low self-esteem.’”

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When I asked my 7 year old, “What is self-worth?” She said, “Self worth means how you feel about yourself, how you treat yourself, how you care and love yourself, how you treat your body, how you believe in yourself and that’s what self-worth means.” I think she summed it up pretty well!

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Dr. Michele Borba states in her blog, “Boosting Kids’ Success Quotients by Building Positive Self-Beliefs”, “As parents, we have opportunities every day to reinforce our children’s self-beliefs. Our expectations for our children and our reactions and words to them can give them votes of confidence or chip away at their self-worth. Each day we could ask ourselves: “If my child’s self-beliefs were based only on my words and actions today, what would he believe about himself?” Our answer should guide how we interact with our children.” Since each day is a fresh new start, I agree with her that we have an opportunity each day to help our children develop a positive sense of self.

Some tips to enhance your child’s self-worth:

  • Listen to your child and use eye contact.

  • Encourage them to try their best, take pride in their work, show kindness to others, etc.

  • Support their interests.

  • Shower them with affection.

  • Validate their feelings- share a personal anecdote to empathize with them and make a connection to how they’re feeling.

  • Let them know it’s okay to make mistakes, that’s how we learn- share with them a time you made a mistake, how you felt, and how you learned/grew from it.

  • Provide positive praise for efforts and behaviors rather than just physical appearance.

  • Empower them to make their own decisions.

  • Be mindful of what you say about yourself and others in front of them- they pick up on everything you say- speak of others and yourself in a positive light.

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The Shimmer Sparkle Shine Project inspired this post.

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They are a non-profit started by a resilient young girl, Ciara, who over came bullying, whose mission now is to help girls and women across the United States through positive activities that nourish them to realize their own individual worth and divine potential.

Self-Worth Awareness Day (SWAD) is targeted towards women of all ages. Every year there is an online campaign for the month of February that leads up to Self-Worth Awareness Day on February 26th. They use all of their social media outlets to spread the message of loving yourself and discovering your self-worth.

http://www.shimmersparkleshineproject.org/self-worth-awareness-day/

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Here is the link for their YouTube video that describes this year’s challenge and campaign, along with their contest!

https://youtu.be/6ncAMmHfdIg

I use children’s books a lot at home to discuss certain topics with my girls or to get important messages across.  Books are also a great conversation starter.

Here are some books we like about self-worth/self-esteem:

growing up glad, kids confidence, kids swimwear, mom blog, mommy blog, fashion blog, parenting blog, girl power, inspiration, motivation, 2015
growing up glad, kids confidence, kids swimwear, mom blog, mommy blog, fashion blog, parenting blog, girl power, inspiration, motivation, 2015
growing up glad, kids confidence, kids swimwear, mom blog, mommy blog, fashion blog, parenting blog, girl power, inspiration, motivation, 2015
growing up glad, kids confidence, kids swimwear, mom blog, mommy blog, fashion blog, parenting blog, girl power, inspiration, motivation, 2015

“Self-Worth comes from one thing-thinking that you are worthy.”

—Dr. Wayne Dyer

Swimwear: Stella Cove

Stella Cove, started by Pia Lofdahl, is a line of exclusive bright beautiful swimwear and beachwear made in Europe using high quality material made to stay vibrant through the summer and beyond. Stella Cove prides itself on bright beautiful prints in happy colors. Each swimsuit is made to last through summer and beyond. We are very honored and grateful to represent this company and their quality apparel.

Photography: The talented Rosie Pose Photography

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